ISFJ - Defender
Overview of The Defender Style
- I – Introvert (outward) Focus
- S – Sensing Framing
- F – Feeling Response
- J – Judging Approach
Defenders are generous and caring. They’ll defend those they care about and are highly motivated to take care of them. “It is better to give than to receive” is a motto they understand. They get an immense amount of pleasure from serving and pleasing others.
They are loyal and committed, particularly to those that appreciate these qualities and the efforts they make for other people. Defenders are altruistic and have a difficult time asking for things, struggling to express their own needs. They will often serve ‘under the radar’ and their efforts may not be noticed. They prefer to let others have the limelight, and are loyal and dedicated.
In communication, Defenders will focus on facts and feeling. They listen more than speak and prefer time to think over big decisions. They often dislike being put on the spot or being asked to make a decision without time for reflection. Begin communication with a Defender by showing support, but do not ask intrusive or personal questions. Defenders do not share personal information before they’re ready or know someone well.
Defenders dislike conflict and can be overly sensitive to criticism. When looking to resolve conflict with a Defender, be sure to discuss the issue, not the person, or they’ll shut down due to feeling attacked. Give the Defender time to think about an issue then reconvene to discuss solutions.
Defenders are dedicated to those they care about. They are terrific team members and will work to both keep harmony and to serve others. They are shy and introverted so will have a small circle of very close friends. It can take a long time to get to know a Defender well.
Supportive – Defenders work hard to build and maintain relationships and harmony. They are terrific listeners.
Observant & understand people – Defenders are great observers of human behavior. They pick up on the sensitivities of others and are empathetic.
Practical – Defenders take very practical actions to support what is important to them. Their judging approach allows them to execute and take concrete actions for what they believe in.
Overly humble Defenders speak for others but are loathe to be in the spotlight. They will not take credit for their contributions and may not stand up for themselves.
Repress their feelingsIt can be difficult to know what a Defender is thinking or feeling. They have deep emotions yet do not wear them on their sleeves. A Defender can be very upset about something but not let anyone see their true feelings.
Reluctant to changeDefenders like the status quo. They believe in tradition and stability and may be averse to change.