INFP - Mediator
Overview of The Mediator Style
- I – Introvert (inward) Focus
- N – Intuitive Framing
- F – Feeling Response
- P – Perceiving Approach
Principled, quiet and compassionate, Mediators seek harmony and balance. They seek the greater good and are flexible in their actions as long as the actions fit their worldview. They seek symbols that support their worldview and work well in close-knit teams with interchangeable roles.
Mediators have high integrity and are values-oriented, with a just/unjust and right/wrong definition of the world. They are looking to make things better for everyone, hence the name Mediator, and have high empathy for others. Their ability to see into the motives of others makes them effective at gaining agreement and inspiring commitment. Their framing is intuitive; they enjoy visualizing possibilities and can be idealistic in their view of a better world for all. As feelers in their response, Mediators will almost always think of people first. As leaders, Mediators find it very difficult to terminate employees.
Mediators have an inward focus and do not enjoy the spotlight. They are often quiet and enjoy working alone, reflecting and thinking about possibilities. They are so inwardly reflective that they can sometimes work alone too much and need reminding to engage with others.
Many Mediators have been artists, for they have highly creative minds and can express themselves far better in writing than verbally. They dislike being put on the spot for an answer, and prefer to mull it over and weigh how it fits with their ideals and worldview. Conversely, they can be very spontaneous and responsive if a project or idea clearly fits with that worldview. They are dedicated and hard-working team members and will work to preserve harmony in a group.
Mediators can come across as distant for they prefer reflection before making decisions. They are considerate and encouraging and prefer one-on-one over group communication.
Open conversations with encouraging words help the Mediator see how the information can help others. While reserved, the Mediator craves closeness, so it is important when communicating with the Mediator to make an authentic effort to get to know him or her. Inauthenticity is quickly spotted by Mediators.
Appeal to the Mediator’s sense of justness by showing that proposed changes are rooted in change for the betterment of the people. You’ll lose a Mediator if you talk only in facts and logic.
After a discussion, be sure to clarify details of what was said and agreed upon, as Mediators prefer to manage their time in a flexible way, rather than with a strict project plan. They may need checking in with to make sure what was agreed upon is on task, for they can be distracted by new ideas or projects. It’s best to do this in writing, as approaching the Mediator suddenly may feel like an attack.
Mediators respond with emotion, yet are not demonstrative in their body language or verbal skills.
Mediators truly want a “win-win” solution and will most often avoid conflict, striving instead for harmony. If in conflict with a Mediator, express your motives authentically and honestly. A Mediator will shut down on you if aggressive tactics are used.
Mediators typically have a small circle of close friends that they open up to. They enjoy connecting with others, but large social groups will be exhausting for them. They are good listeners and empathetic and are often sought as the person to confide in or discuss problems with. Conversely, they’ll share little about themselves unless they are sure that the other person is trustworthy.
Creative – Mediators are intuitive, open-minded, and can connect disparate bits into a whole that others can understand.
Written communication – Mediators can rally others around a cause with their creative writing and idealist beliefs in possibility.
Dedicated, loyal, hardworking – If a Mediator believes in a cause, he or she will work long and hard to see it to fruition. They’ll work tirelessly for a cause they truly believe in.
Understanding others – Mediators have a keen sense of what motivates others. They are great listeners and can easily understand and affirm what someone is articulating to them.
Dealing with Conflict – Mediators want harmony and work to build it. They are highly averse to open conflict. Seeing fellow team members in conflict will be very unsettling for them. Positive conflict, where issues are transparently discussed, is far more comfortable. Mediators seek common ground.
Unrealistic – Mediators can be too idealistic, too altruistic in the view of seeking a harmonious world. They can quickly shut down when faced with something that contradicts their principles.
Standoffish – Mediators retreat inward when confronted by aggressive people and their trust must be earned. They prefer to truly think a situation through before communicating, which can come across as standoffish to others.