ESFJ – Stabilizer
Overview of The Stabilizer Style
- E – Extravert (outward) Focus
- S – Sensing Framing
- F – Feeling Response
- J – Judging Approach
Stabilizers are warm communicators and genuinely care about others. Their response is feeling, yet with their judging approach they’ll get things done. You often find Stabilizers working to create order in chaotic situations in order to help people as much as possible. They enjoy being in the spotlight. While image matters to them, people are most important. They often work in social impact type organizations, wanting to make a difference. They will work hard for a cause and always keep a positive effect on people at the forefront of their goals.
Highly social, Stabilizers will often be the glue that holds a group of friends together, ensuring they stay in touch with others. Stabilizers want to help others, and make sure everyone gets along. They make terrific team players.
With their sensing framing, Stabilizers like to deal with what IS, preferring to handle what is here and now and not ambiguity. Tough decisions will be difficult for Stabilizers if people are involved; harmony is an ultimate goal for them and it is not easy for Stabilizers to make decisions that may disrupt that goal.
Stabilizers are talkative and can easily verbalize their feelings. They will quickly open up to new acquaintances and prefer transparent, non-hurtful communication. They’ll use their skilled command of language to persuade and bring others together. When communicating with a Stabilizer, it is important to begin the conversation with supportive words and small talk. Although their approach is with feelings, they like to deal with facts and are comforted by processes. When approaching a Stabilizer, open with assurance, specifically detail what you’d like to accomplish, then give the Stabilizer a chance to talk.
Stabilizers dislike conflict and will want to resolve it quickly to preserve the relationship. When approaching a conflict situation with a Stabilizer, be sure to listen and acknowledge their emotions. It is important to the Stabilizer that emotions be acknowledged before moving to solutions. Assure the Stabilizer of your good intentions before having discussion on how to resolve the conflict.
Stabilizers are supportive, nurturing and reliable. They have great memories for facts about people and will often remember names and other details about others. They will work hard to keep harmony in relationships, as people are a priority in their lives.
The Stabilizer will reach out to many and may have hurt feelings if their attempts at outreach do not receive a response. They truly want everyone to get along.
Practical – Stabilizers are highly practical and enjoy handling day-to-day tasks.
Loyal – Stabilizers are very loyal to people, organizations and ideas that matter to them. They will work to keep the relationship positive and harmonious. A downside to this is that Stabilizers can stay in relationships that are no longer good for them.
Good connectors – Stabilizers enjoy meeting people and remember names and facts about others. They are very welcoming and quickly establish warm rapport.
Tough decisions Stabilizers will have difficulty making tough decisions that disrupt harmony, such as laying people off. They have a strong feeling response and will find it difficult to make rational decisions in the face of disrupting people’s lives.
Worriers Stabilizers can overthink about what others think of them, and their need to have harmony can come across as fretting or even needy.
Too selfless In their efforts to bring harmony and stability, they can forget to take care of themselves and put others first at their own detriment.