ESFP – Experiencer
Overview of The Experiencer Style
- E – Extravert (outward) Focus
- S – Sensing Framing
- F – Feeling Response
- P – Perceiving Approach
Experiencers are socially enthusiastic people who actively enjoy in-the-moment experiences. Spontaneous and energetic, they explore the here and now and will use make the most of the circumstances, facts and people they have to explore practical solutions that satisfy short-term need.
Experiencers’ motto could be “Live for today, worry about consequences tomorrow.” They’re game for trying most anything and will impulsively say “yes” to everything. This can be frustrating for others when their social calendar is overbooked and they have to cancel on someone. The Experiencers’ intentions at the moment of saying yes are heartfelt. They truly would like to go and experience everything.
Experiencers will take risks in their pursuit of experience. They plunge in headfirst and figure it out along the way. Their sensing framing, which is very tactical and based on what they can sense, see and touch, helps them immediately formulate a plan when an idea hits them. This can be a towering strength and risky challenge, depending on the situation.
Experiencers enjoy the spotlight and are terrific networkers. They have a keen sense of people and are very observant. Naturally empathetic they connect easily with others and are great at one-on-one communication as well as speaking to groups.
Experiencers hate to be left out. They want to be included and want to include everyone else as well. When working on a team, they are the life of the party, always communicating with everyone and thinking of activities to bond the team.
Experiencers are warm and engaging communicators. It is best to start with establishing rapport and getting to know them. Going straight for logic and facts won’t capture their interest; making the conversation fun will. Engage their senses. If they can see, smell, taste, hear or feel something, it will work to convince them far more than simple words or logic.
It is also a good idea to focus on people, for Experiencers are Feelers and connect deeply and quickly with others. Be prepared for spontaneous and sudden actions. If you capture their imagination, an Experiencer will want to do whatever it is ‘right now.’ After discussing upcoming actions, be sure to clarify details of what was said and agreed upon as Experiencers prefer to manage their time in a flexible way, rather than with a strict project plan.
Experiencers truly want a “win-win” solution and will go out of their way to avoid conflict, particularly if it is a criticism of themselves. “Let’s do something together,” is a good approach to solving conflict with an Experiencer. Conduct a walking meeting to talk things out or perhaps converse over a meal.
Experiencers are “what you see is what you get” type people. They’re very open and hold little back. They are highly social and will typically have large groups of friends. They are busy, preferring new activities and adventures to doing the same things over and over. They sometimes overbook their calendars, seeing no problem with canceling last-minute if something more exciting comes along. This can come across to others as uncaring and shallow, but in reality, it is simply how they are wired. They love social connection and action, and in it is hard for them to understand how others can turn down challenges.
Catalyst – Experiencers get things moving. They hate to be idle and can be persuasive in getting others to take action.
Daring – When others have analysis-paralysis, the Experiencer will just do it. For the Experiences, failure isn’t a problem but rather an experience to learn from. They can take a vision to fruition because they are tactical and flexible, and will try different methods until they get it right.
Practical – It may seem contradictory that an impulsive, dive-right-in person is practical, yet Experiencers see the world as it is, not how it can be. For them, the world is to be experienced, not solved.
Interpersonal Skills – Experiencers are good communicators and can read others. They can keep conversations going and discuss anything and everything.
Dealing with Criticism – Experiencers operate on high emotion and impulsivity and can be selective listeners when faced with criticism or constructive feedback.
Need for stimulation – Experiencers want constant change in activity and experience. Day-to-day work can bore them and make it challenging for them to finish what they start.
Risky behavior – Experiencers can engage in too much risk. For example, a controlled culture where hierarchy is strict and rules must be followed for safety reasons is in direct conflict with how the Experiencer wants to live.